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Mostly-straight dating app Tinder had a projected 20 million active monthly users by April 2015, and gay male dating app Grindr, which on its fifth anniversary in 2014 had over 10 million user downloads, has been thriving for years now, but we have yet to see an app for lesbian and queer women really take off.
Daatch launched in 2014 and landed with a thud, primarily because many users reported a lot of technical issues and not enough women (a fatal flaw for a lesbian dating app).
A 2013 study from Liverpool Hope University that studied 126 lesbian and straight women with the average age of 27 found that lesbians had and wanted to have just as much casual sex as straight women.
But the gay women I talked to said they need to have some kind of connection to the other person, even if their only intention is to hook-up (which is often is). But now on Tinder everyone seems to be afraid of being too earnest.
Meeting someone through your LGBTQ social network offers a level of Date Insurance that many queer women can't afford to do without.
All this partner-vetting isn't to say all lesbians are serial monogamists.
"On one hand, it's great that these girls have a venue in which to explore their sexuality safely, but on the other hand, I've learned a few times on first dates with women I met online that they've never been with a woman before," she says.
"This is not necessarily a problem, but sometimes it's hard to gauge if someone is feeling experimental versus being very much past that stage." A straight-identifying friend even told me she sometimes turns her Tinder to women-seeking-women to chat with women even though she'd "probably never do anything." Enough false-positive matches like that would turn anyone off.
Chen adds that "until there's word-of-mouth, and enough people to generate a quality experience, the marketplace will suck." So lesbians who have primarily heterosexual friends might not know about the app, and gay women who hang out with other gay women probably see people they already know on the app (aka exes they'd rather not see ever again).
Dinesh Moorjani, co-founder of Tinder and CEO of Hatch Labs Inc.
where Tinder was created, says that another reason lesbian dating apps may have failed to prosper could be that investors don't see that 3.4 percent of America as a large enough market to tackle (never mind that gay and bi men make up about the same proportion of the population as gay and bi women, and Grindr has 10 times the users of Her).
So how did online dating miss the lesbian community?
One reason could be because there just is no good app for queer women.